Boxes are good. Boxes are great. Boxes can hold gifts from loved ones, puppies, treasures and memories. They can be turned into forts, castles, race cars or rocket ships. They can even be used to create bountiful gardens, and if you are short like me, then they also can provide something to stand on to reach high places.
BUT boxes are NOT for people to be shoved into. Those kind of boxes are divisive. Those kind of boxes create barriers, create walls and sometimes, an overwhelming feeling of being alone. Do you want to know a secret? THESE boxes are completely imaginary, and something we ALLOW ourselves to be put into (or maybe even put ourselves, or others).
I think this is something that women need to be reminded of frequently, because there are SO many ideals we are supposed to live up to. The perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect friend. NONE of us are perfect. Even if we appear to have it together, I can say with certainty that most of us do NOT.
Do not let society tell you that you must look a certain way to be beautiful. Appreciate your body and all it does for you. Certainly, being healthy is great, but so is being kind. Not just to others, but to yourself.
High Maintenance? What does that even mean? You are not a car! So you love makeup, manicures and shopping? Then enjoy it without letting others’ feelings on the matter effect your enjoyment.
Do you love wearing makeup and feeling pretty, but also mudding and hunting? Go on with your bad self, and wear that lipstick and deck yourself out in camo and deer urine.
Go till those fields, harvest those crops and butcher those chickens! Want to wear a dress while doing it? Go for it, girl! But save the high heels for dinner afterwards, and wear your boots for safety measures 😉
Go ahead and feel proud of being a mother and that you are nourishing your baby. Who cares if it is with formula or a breast? They are ALIVE, and you are providing them with nourishment. Good for you mama!
Do you love your kids more than life, but also have a mouth like a sailor? Then be an amazing parent and rock the fuck out of it! Besides, hasn’t EVERYONE stubbed their toe on the corner of the couch or stepped on a lego in the dead of night?!
Are you super health conscious but you also enjoy a bottle…er, glass of wine? You probably sweat it out in the gym the next day anyways. Or you can just move to Europe where they believe it’s totally good for you, physically and mentally. Don’t beat yourself up for enjoying something! The same holds true with cupcakes. I will take a sec here to say that you can ALWAYS find healthier options that still taste AMAZING, both in wine and cupcakes 😉
The point is, you can’t let anyone else tell you what is right for YOU. You must be true to yourself to be truly happy. To be anything less than is a disservice to yourself, and the world!
I am a hardcore nerd. I am very intellectual, but love a good RomCom as much as the next girl. I love whisky, beer and wine ( ok fine, I like alcohol. But keep those Appletinis away from me…blech 😉 ). I LOVE animals but I eat meat (either home raised or sustainably sourced). I am a believer in God but embrace my Native American heritage and enjoy learning about different religions. I am a dreamer but I am pragmatic. I love feeling good about myself and rockin’ some killer lips, with brows on point and lashes for days, but I am just as happy as a pig in mud . And I do mean that literally, I am often found sitting with my pigs, in mud. I am strong, but kind and soft. I love to wear dresses and heels, but I am at home in jeans and barefoot. And people tell me I am weird. ALL THE TIME. Many people don’t understand me. But that is ok. I am ME. There is no one else like me. Just like YOU. You can give the world something no one else can! Don’t try to make yourself fit into a box because other people might be uncomfortable with your amazingness. You never know who might need exactly what you can give them on any given day, or how much of an impact your true self can make on someone. So just be yourself, no matter what.
Unless you are a murderer. Then definitely don’t be that….